#Don t walk away in silence how to#

There are a lot of belief systems about love and I question them often. Buddhism teaches us to love without expectation. Loyalty and commitment teach us that we are not to walk away from people that we love. Sometimes we can recover from this, sometimes we can’t. Suddenly that perfect perception of the other person is a little bit tainted. You can re-tie it, but there is now a knot. One day you are over the moon and the next disillusioned. It stretches and retracts and changes shape constantly. I suggest we do our best to live in the moment. Hopes and expectations rise along with the awareness that it can slip away. This is what love requires: utmost vulnerability and trust. By this point it’s too late-you’ve already stretched your heart for someone capable of bruising it. Often we fall in love with a person before we have fully gotten to know them. It can ease in like a light a mist that settles itself beautifully over your life, or it can blindside you. Unrequited love is toxic, and it can eat you alive.įalling in love can be a slippery slope, regardless of any protective barriers we may have built. I once again entered into a relationship desperate to find love and instead found a beautiful disaster. Except this time not only was he not walking with me but he was subtly trying to kick my feet from under me every chance he got.

#Don t walk away in silence how to#

I have really had to sit with this and try and figure out what part of this was my doing, and how to change it, because this year I once again chose a partner who was not walking with me. I’ve been blessed with some amazing moments over the years, but somehow have managed to choose partners who did not want what I wanted, did not feel what I felt, and did not want to walk beside me into a future together. To say that love hasn’t obeyed my expectations would be the understatement of the century.

“Love does not obey our expectations it obeys our intentions.” ~Lloyd Strom